I received Happy Relationships by Lucy Beresford as a review copy from Fingerprint Publishing as a review copy and I would like to thank Megha Parmar for the book.
Why do some relationships give us great joy and others become toxic?
What role do we play in our relationships?
Are our relationship skills weakening in the age of social media?
From the moment we are born we rely on others for our survival. But as we get older, we can sometimes find relationships upsetting and frustrating.
In this insightful, well written book, psychotherapist Lucy Beresford cuts to the chase of how to have harmonious, fulfilling relationships.
Whether it’s with our partner, our kids, our boss, or our mother-in-law, or perhaps most importantly ourselves, all our relationships require – at some stage in our lives – a little bit of tender loving care.
A helpful toolkit in dealing with everyday dilemmas, Happy Relationships at Home, Work and Play will boost your confidence, encourage insight and empower you to be the best you can in all your relationships.
There are certain books which you read, write a gist of the story and then write what you feel about the book. But this book does not fall into this category. It is not a story book or a work of fiction. This book has been divided nine chapters discussing relationships with self, parents, siblings, friends, children, in-laws, co-workers, ‘the other’ and the social media. The author has used case studies in the form of letters to explain various topics using the names mentioned in the letter so that it is easy for the reader to follow what she is talking about. There are boxes in between these with tips.
She says that we are relational creatures and relationships are the mood music of our lives. She also mentions that we are independent as much as we are relational creatures. For majority of us, there is at least one relationship in life and we long for the peace a good relation brings. She also mentions that different people have different history, different needs and so a different template is required while dealing with different people.
She talks about our relationship with our own self lasts a life time and that with our parents provides the earliest templates that we have for our later relationships. She also mentions that siblings are the crucial anchor people in our lives. She talks about friendships and mentions that when our friendship goes wrong, we feel so emotional, so bereft. She mentions that intimate relationships are the very cornerstone of human social existence and says that one of her clients summed this up as ‘efforts in, rewards out’. She also mentions that we never choose our relationships with our in-laws and that as compared to our parents, they love us conditionally. She has spoken about our relationships with our children, about the joy, the rewards and the hurt they give us. As our children grow up, our relationship with them also changes. She also talks about relationship issues at work calling ‘Workship’ being the new playground. She has alo spoken about the upsides and downsides of Social Media.
She has touched many topics but topics like bullying, friendship audit, sibling rivalry have been explained well.
The book has been written in a simple language with examples making it easy to read. Though there are some topics which may not be pertinent in the Indian context but still I feel a lot of it needs to be read and understood. Not once, not twice, but every time, a need is felt. I have placed it conveniently on the dresser next to my bed.
Disclaimer: I received a free copy of the book from the publisher in return for my honest review. I have NOT received any monetary compensation for the same.